Romance In Connecticut

It was snowing again. This is the soft white powder you would expect in Colorado, not in Connecticut. It makes everything quiet and clean and very cold. The large wrap around quintessential porch creaked below my snow boots. I glanced at the ice sculptures in the “green” which was now all white. As I walked into the lobby the roaring fire was a welcome relief to the snowy scene outside. I had just walked back in time to 1806 at the White Hart Inn. On the first floor of this charming inn are the large banquet rooms each with its own huge original wood burning fire place. The wood floors and large windows make it a romantic and personal place for a wedding and reception. The cozy Tap Room on the main floor is a meeting place for all guests where one can grab a delicious meal or a hot drink at the bar. The hotel is only 26 rooms which ensure individual attention to all guests. My favorite room at the White Hart Inn is the Edsel Ford room. The blue Waverly wall paper and royal blue carpet makes you feel like you are indeed visiting in the 1800s. The large 4 poster canopy bed is nestled between windows that offer views of the green and the town. Although the fire place is non working, it adds to the romantic ambiance of the room. The annual ski jumping event had taken place the previous weekend to my visit and now this cozy bed and breakfast was quiet once again. Nestled in the Berkshire Hills, this area of Connecticut is called Litchfield County. While the area is best known for their many summer recreational and cultural activities, there is much to do in all four seasons. Spring is an excellent time for hiking, biking or canoeing. The Appalachian Trail has 13 miles of beautiful trails all through Salisbury. The winter offers downhill and cross-country skiing. The fall has the beautiful breathtaking autumn colors, of which there is nothing to compare. Visit a winery or do some antiquing all year round. Or just pull up a rocking chair and enjoy the feeling of days gone by at this perfect spot for your romantic honeymoon vacation!

In Search Of The Perfect Connecticut Wedding Dress

So you’ve been to every bridal shop in Connecticut, consulted dozens of bridal magazines; and even met with a few bridal consultants and you still can’t find the perfect wedding dress. What should you do? Many soon-to-be-brides have great difficulty finding the right wedding dress. It seems that there are too many choices and designs to choose from, making it too difficult of a decision to make. The way to tackle this important task is very simple; plan! Just as you plan every other facet of your wedding, you must also plan for your wedding dress. What’s your budget? Determining your budget is the first factor you need to consider before even looking at any wedding dresses. If you can afford between $4,000 – $5,000 then it would be wise to seek the services of a couture bridal salon. Of course not all dresses in bridal salons are in that price range, but for the most part, their dresses are sold for higher prices. Research Go through several wedding/bridal magazines, and tear out the dresses that you prefer. Make a small file and bring it with you when you go shopping. Notice the small details like necklines, sleeves, design lines; fabrics such as laces, brocades, satins and silks; trims such as piping and embroidery. Decide what you like and don’t like; what’s in your budget and what’s not, and then visit the stores that stock the styles you like. Visit more than one bridal shop Go to several bridal shops that stock the styles that you like. You may have to make appointments to do this with some couture bridal salons, so be sure to call before hand and schedule an appointment. While you are there, try on several dresses that appeal to you, to help you decide which styles look flattering for your body type; and, be sure to bring someone with you that you trust. Remember, and this is important, that the size 2 model in the magazine will look great in anything, so some styles that you liked in the magazines may not be as flattering in the real world. Don’t be afraid to ask tons of questions to the stylist who is assisting you. If it’s a couture salon, find out how far in advance you need to place your order, how many fittings will be required, and how payments can be made. Get a written quote If you’ve decided on a design, get a written quote for the dress. Find out exactly what that quote includes. For example, some bridal salons charge extra for fittings and alterations. Be sure to know and understand everything before you place your order, to avoid any surprises. Salon or custom designed By now, you should have already decided whether you have found the gown of your dreams in a salon, or need to have it custom designed for you. Increasingly, brides are choosing the option of custom designed, as opposed to buying one from a selection in a salon. Nothing compares to a couture and one of a kind wedding dress made specifically or the bride. But this is a decision you must make for yourself. If you do choose custom designed, the next step is to find the right designer or dressmaker for you. Designers such as Monique Lullhier custom design services begin at $25,000. Finally, remember that your wedding gown is the most important dress you will ever wear. It is the gown in which you will say “I do” to the man of your dreams. It is the gown in which you will be remembered long after the wedding. You may even see your daughter wearing it on her wedding day. Most of all, you should have a lot of fun shopping for the perfect wedding gown.

An excerpt from Unstuck: One Heroine’s Journey of Art and the Courage to Live on Purpose

I found myself kneeling there quietly praying and sobbing in 1998, my husband sleeping in our adjacent bedroom. That was the year of my Seven-Year Itch. I always joke that my Seven-Year Itch came in the form of my mother badgering me to have a child, just one, so I could have the close relationship she and I had always enjoyed.

The problem was I never wanted to be a mother. Even at the young age of 6, my mom said I defiantly told her that I didn’t want to do what she did, become a mom and housewife. But here I was on the cornflower blue bathroom carpet that came with the house I had purchased seven years before, quietly crying and imploring God, “I don’t want to be married. I don’t want to have a baby. I feel hopelessly stuck. HELP!”

You see, I’ve always considered myself a floater in life never having a clear vision of what I wanted to do or be. That’s why I got married. I graduated with a bachelor’s and master’s within five and a half years, and the next logical step seemed to be marriage. After all, that’s what my mother, aunt and two grandmothers had done – found a mate and settled down. I later learned on an episode of Oprah that these are called shadow beliefs. We tend to follow the path of those who have gone before us, even if that path – at least in my case – feels a bit off.

I had even quit my communications job to help my husband manage the hair salon he wanted to open. Another shadow belief right on track: none of the females in my family had worked outside the home. The husbands had always been the sole breadwinners. By my Seven-Year Itch, I had been a nonworking wife for four-plus years. My world reduced to answering the phone at the salon, painting a ton of ceramics while waiting for the phone to ring, taking violin lessons, playing violin in the church orchestra, and adopting a “grandmother” at a nearby nursing home. Add to that caving into my mother’s pressure to have a baby, enduring the nightmare of fertility medication, not feeling joyful upon becoming pregnant, being admonished by my mom about not being joyful, finally getting on board with the motherhood idea, and then – BOOM – losing the baby in the 11th week.

During all of this turmoil that had become my life because of the choices I’d made trying to fit into society’s “norm,” my identity and self-esteem were cowering face down in the corner. That’s why I was sobbing on the bathroom floor during the night asking God for a new direction.

The Universe answered with an open door of opportunity that changed the trajectory of my life.

In July of 1998, my former dean at Texas Tech University had seen the feature story I’d placed in the newspaper promoting the salon. He recognized that I wasn’t working in a formal job, and called to ask if I would teach a summer writing class that started the NEXT day – only two short months after my miscarriage and the thud of my self-confidence hitting rock bottom!

I was shaky, but I said yes to this open door of opportunity. I knew my marriage was failing and teaching was a key to independence and freedom. So, I accepted this Call to Adventure, which led to getting divorced, earning my doctorate degree, and moving from Texas to Connecticut solo in 2003 to begin a new existence as a university professor – a 180-degree shift from my previous self.

For some reason, I had the idea that returning to painting, which I hadn’t done since college, would be a welcome outlet from my apprehension during this tumultuous period. I found it to be an emotional release, a way to purge my feelings of anxiety, fear, hope, anticipation, and determination. My art began taking shape in the form of female portraits surrounded by emotion and femininity. I eventually realized I was painting a visual diary of what was happening in my life, a visual memoir. The female faces may have come from free-hand sketches of women in perfume ads and fashion photos, but the themes and emotion driving the works were from my life experiences at certain snapshots in time.

However, my painting came to a halt as life marched forward. I became consumed with navigating a new town in a new state and trying to decipher the ins and outs of a tenure-track assistant professor position at a new university. The heavy cardboard box of acrylic paints I’d drug from Texas to Connecticut sat in the floor of my closet gathering dust. I only painted two additional portraits after making my big move. My art had become a forgotten part-time hobby pushed to the back burner.

Fast-forward a decade to summer 2013 when my life’s Purpose emerged during Deepak Chopra’s meditation. He asked, “If you could be anything in life, no fear or obstacles, what would that be?” With the simple answer of “an artist” bursting into my consciousness, I soon began to feel a second life transformation taking root.

My intuition started urging me to share my art and writing beyond the walls of my home and pages of personal journals. So, I put my fear of showing my work aside and created a website,, that contains photos of my portraits and blog stories about the life circumstance behind each piece. I believed my story of flipping my life from a stagnant position of nonworking wife totally dependent on her husband to an independent professor was an account that could inspire others who may feel stuck in their lives.

But, I soon began perceiving that showing my work on a website was not enough. The Universe was asking me to answer a more profound Call to Adventure that would take me closer toward being my True Self and living my Purpose. I loved teaching my students, but I knew in my heart that becoming a university professor was not my ultimate calling in life.

My heart began imploring me to not sign the next year’s contract at my university. My intuition whispered that if I signed the next contract locking myself into another academic year, it would cause a painful, unnecessary detour just as caving in to having a baby I knew I was not meant to conceive had done. My intuition said that committing to another year at my university would cause a door to slam shut in the face of my life’s Purpose.

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What does your image say about your career and personal success?

Do you have a good presence? What does your image say about your career and personal success?
There is more to having the right image for personal and business success than just wearing a great fitting pair of pants or handing out an impressive business card. Although you should never underestimate the importance of donning the fit, colors and style that flatter you the most, remember also that presence is required; def: the impressive manner or appearance of a person.
Your personal and business appearance are affected by, but not limited to:
* The clothes you wear
* Your body language
* The tone and speed of your speech
* Your social media presence
* Your business’s printed materials
All of the above make up the message that you are sending to your clients, superior, coworkers, family, and friends. The way you are perceived is key to how one finds success and happiness in all aspects of life.
Here is the truth:
* Others judge us within 20 seconds of meeting us.
* In a job interview, 90% of the decision whether or not to hire is made within the first three minutes.
* A study by Clairol found that companies projected salaries up to 20% higher based on a job applicant’s appearance.
* How you say something is as important as what you say.
* Power and status are established very early in any relationship.
* People judge us based upon their perception of us.
* Perception of us is based upon the image we project (how we look, act and sound) which is directly related to our nonverbal behaviors.
* When we are perceived as being highly competent as well as highly likable, we maximize our ability to persuade, influence and lead.
Presenting your best image includes many aspects, such as how you dress, smile, shake hands, stand, and speak, eye contact and even your table manners. In other words, it takes the whole package to get the respect, job, salary, and interest of those you are trying to get to pay attention to you and the message you are sending out.
Your presence reflects who you are, and in business the image you project is your virtual resume and business card.
So how can you be sure that you are putting your best self forward?
Begin by dressing in clothes that work for your personality, lifestyle and body shape. Notice how when you are dressed in flattering and well- fitting clothes that you start to not only look but also feel more confident. You will then find yourself standing straighter, smiling brighter, speaking with a more confident voice, and sending out a very positive and welcoming message.
Just by changing your wardrobe choices and posture, you can transform your current presence from just okay to impressive.
If you want to attract business and personal success, then consider making some needed improvements and enjoy the compliments and positive attention you will definitely receive.
So, What Is Your Image Saying About Your Business & Career?
As an Image Consultant, it is my job and mission to show my clients how they can improve how they look, and stop wasting money on clothes that do not fit and flatter them. Nothing makes me happier than when I see how people’s eyes brighten when they love what they see in their mirror and get the success they deserve.

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Author’s Bio:

Scarlett De Bease is a Wardrobe Stylist who shows professional women how to project confidence & success by always knowing what to wear.
She has been in the fashion and cosmetic industries for over 20 years, always with the goal of helping her clients realize their full potential. Scarlett shows her clients the trick and tips to look YOUNGER, THINNER and TALLER.